How to Put an End to “Vaginal Dryness” and Feel Like a Queen Down There

By Isa Herrera, MSPT

What causes down there dryness? What does it mean when your va-jay-jay feels dry? Why am I dry down-there? Why do I feel so itchy? How has my down-there lost its strength? And most importantly — is there a way to reverse this discomfort and menopausal mayhem? If you’ve suffered from feeling less-than-lubricated down there, you’ve definitely asked these questions a time or two, right?

After all, “Down There” health feels impossible to maintain as you get older.

There’s the leaking, the dryness, the itching, the UTIs. It feels like a neverending process trying to keep up with the changes your yoni undergoes before menopause and beyond. And that’s not to mention the hot flashes, insomnia, mood swings, brain fog, and other frustrating symptoms of menopause heaps upon you.

Maybe you’ve been told that potentially dangerous hormone replacement treatments are the only way to stop the itching and dryness downstairs. But there are other ways to restore moisture, soothe delicate tissues, and make itchiness a thing of the past.

How Does Your Vagina Change In Menopause and Perimenopause?

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When you reach perimenopause and menopause, your body begins to make preparations to stop ovulating. This means that your ovaries slow down the production of estrogen and other hormones. And it’s

this loss of hormone production that starts to cause the uncomfortable symptoms many women associate with menopause.

When your hormone production wanes, you may experience:

  • Nausea
  • Brain fog
  • Insomnia
  • Low mood
  • Low energy
  • Hot flashes
  • Weight gain
  • Night sweats
  • High cholesterol
  • Insulin resistance
  • High blood pressure
  • Headaches and migraines

On top of all that, there are some serious changes to your vulva, vagina, urethra, and bladder that happen, too. Let’s talk about some of the vulvovaginal and genitourinary symptoms that women most frequently see when they enter their 40s.


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Atrophy is a medical term that basically means to wither and waste away. Atrophy is the main culprit for the rather ridiculous changes women see in their lady parts beginning in perimenopause.

Atrophy happens because when estrogen production declines, there’s less of it to send to your genitourinary (vulva, vagina, urethra, bladder, ovaries, fallopian tubes) tissues. You see, your tissues in these areas are typically flush with estrogen before age 40. So when estrogen disappears, this is where you really start to feel it. You may experience vaginal dryness, itching, leaking, and increased UTIs.(1)

Leaking And Increased Need To Pee

Small pee leaks and feeling like you constantly need to pee are one of the most frustrating and downright annoying things that women over 40 deal with. What angers me the most is that women are told that this is “normal” and we just need to live with it. That’s completely untrue. I’ll talk about ways to stop leaking further down in this article, so keep reading.

Leaking and increased frequency occur because of weakness in the pelvic floor (which can also be a side effect of reduced estrogen) and atrophy of your urinary tissues.


bladder UTI

Urinary tract infections are quite common, beginning in perimenopause. This is because of estrogen’s protective effects on the urethra (where your urine leaves your body) and your bladder wane as estrogen production declines and the tissues in this area atrophy.

Vaginal Dryness And Itching

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Dryness is another side effect of vaginal atrophy and lack of estrogen. When your vaginal skin begins to thin, it becomes dry. This can make you feel sore in your vagina — especially during and after intercourse or when sitting, urinating, and exercising.

Atrophied tissues can also make your vulva and labia feel extremely itchy. Sometimes women feel a burning sensation in their lady parts, too.

How To Stop Vaginal Dryness

So, we’ve determined why your vagina feels itchy and dry, and you keep getting UTIs — yep, it’s mainly from declining estrogen levels…

Next, let’s talk about how to stop the atrophy and get you feeling better down there.

There are a few things you can do to prop up estrogen levels and support your overall vaginal health. But they aren’t all equally attractive solutions.

You Could Suffer Through And Hope For The Best

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If there’s one option I’d advise you NOT to try, it’s this one. In fact, I’ve tried versions of this myself over the years (I experienced early onset menopause immediately after the birth of my daughter almost 20 years ago).

The thing is, when you accept the fact that your body is aging and make a choice to celebrate that fact — it’s a beautiful thing.

But that also doesn’t mean you have to go quietly into the night, either.

If you’re in pain, you deserve to feel better. And if you’re uncomfortable, itchy, or running to the bathroom every hour — you deserve to feel better. You were meant to live a life of joy, pleasure, and happiness. You can’t do that if your vagina constantly feels like it’s on fire. So please, don’t push this down and ignore it in the hopes that it will go away on its own. Your body won’t magically start making more estrogen for your tired and weary tissues down there.

Hormone Replacement Therapy

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Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) and vaginal creams containing estrogen are popular subjects for women of a certain age. But HRT can also be quite controversial.

Here’s the short story: years ago, HRT was a standard of care for menopausal women. But then research came out that suggested there were health risks. Serious health risks — like heart disease, stroke, and breast cancer.

When the results of that large clinical trial were published, HRT fell out of favor.

More recently, research has suggested that the findings of the initial large study were a little more nuanced than previously thought. Researchers now say that the risks of undergoing HRT vary widely, depending on your pre-existing risk for breast cancer, your age, how long you use it, and whether or not the HRT you’re prescribed is estrogen alone or whether it’s combined with progestin.(2,3)

Yes, replacing estrogen in your body is helpful in reducing vaginal dryness.

But I’d recommend looking at all of the data and assessing your risk factors very, very carefully before embarking on an HRT treatment.

And honestly, I have tried hormone therapies and didn’t find them to be the panacea the doctors promised me.

I think there’s a better, safer way to restore and rejuvenate your vagina.

Natural Ways To End Your Vaginal Woes + Support Your Hormones

Here’s where things get interesting.

Did you know that there are other plant-based ingredients that also help to encourage estrogen production in the body and lubricate the heck out of your V?

Yep, in my quest to find the perfect vaginal serum over the years, I’ve come across some really stellar things that worked even better than HRT for me.

Things like:

Hyaluronic Acid

• Hyaluronic Acid: Hyaluronic acid has a special ability to retain tons of water. Yep, it can hold many times its’ own weight in water! So, obviously, it’s good at making things wetter. But here’s the really cool thing. Hyaluronic acid has also been studied for its special benefits for your lady parts. (26-31) It’s like a magic wand that can turn back time and make you feel positively younger down there.

Plus, one review determined hyaluronic acid to be just as effective as estriol for the genitourinary syndrome of menopause (which is the medical term to describe the hassles thinning tissues caused for your vagina, vulva, urethra, and bladder). (32)

DHEA from Wild Yam

•DHEA from Wild Yam: Wild yam is one of those powerhouse vagina-loving plants that indigenous cultures have used for centuries to support women’s health. Why? It’s packed with amazing phytoestrogens and contains diosgenin, a compound that can be made into dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA). DHEA is a hormone precursor — which means your body uses it to make hormones like estrogen.

When you use this natural wonder inside your vagina, research indicates it could help make your lady parts happier, wetter, and less troublesome. Plus, it looks like DHEA can help rev up your libido and help you rekindle your love life. (10-22

Aloe Leaf Juice

• Aloe Leaf Juice: Did you know that aloe is not only amazing for the skin but is also a source of phytoestrogens? (4-9) It delivers a 1-2 punch to knock out that dry, itchy feeling down there.

Evening Primrose Oil

•Evening Primrose Oil: Evening primrose oil is a well-known go-to herb for menopausal women. It’s a phytoestrogen that also is loaded with essential fatty acids. When you put it in your vagina, it restores the skin inside and makes it feel brand new again. (23-25)

And here’s the really exciting news: I’ve formulated my brand-new internal vaginal restoring serum, The Toal Fem Re-Juvenator, with all of these ingredients (and more!)

Click here to learn more about Total Fem Re-Juvenator and how it can help you take your lady parts from dry and itchy to juicy, creamy, and wet once again.


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Isa Herrera, MSPT, CSCS is a New York City-based holistic women’s pelvic floor specialist, author of 5 books on pelvic health, including the international best seller Female Pelvic Alchemy, and the ground-breaking self-help book, Ending Female Pain, A Woman’s Manual. She has dedicated her career to advancing awareness of pelvic floor conditions so that more people can find relief from this silent epidemic that affects over 30 million people in the US alone. Ms. Herrera holds a BA in Psychology and Biology from Fordham University and also a Masters in Physical Therapy from Hunter College. Click here for a complete bio.